Targeting a perfect stranger by my morning flash

For nearly two years (very infrequently off and on), I've tried to get a younger man (about 23-27) who rides to work on his bicycle through the cemetery (above) to notice my peekaboo flashing (see thru, hole-riddled and mesh clothes). He's not ever really taken the bait and generally turns his head or avert his eyes - if we're too close - so that he can't be 'accused' of looking. I am pretty positive he knows what I'm up to ... a few times a month I make a sudden appearance on his route - sometimes with my zipper down or sometimes with a pair of mesh shorts with my shirt tucked in just for him to see my pale cock wiggle from side-to-side as walk by him. If he were so disgusted or fearful (of being stalked), he could easily find another path to his work (I think he's working at a small commercial airport not too far away) because I meet him usually (once a week or so) around 7:00am and he returns about home the same route in mid-afternoon. Wednesday are his day off so he works on Saturdays as well.  See what I mean ... in a posting (original from May 10) cygnus wants to find a place to flash in Holland. Of course, there are many more people of Asian origin in most European cities than you would find Non-Asians (caucasians) in major cities of the country where I live. Look how he described himself "I am skinny asian boy" (a very cute one from the looks of his attached photo ), but does being a racial minority have an effect on us wanting to be a flasher (or to expose ourselves). I would say deep down psychologically it does. We' re not talking about simply travelling to a country that has a very different ethnicity as your own. But actually living, working and becoming immersed in the language, culture and daily life for a long period of time - (few to many years) might prompt extreme minority members to crave acceptance beyond the 'normal' channels. I noticed some str8 flasher on the other discussion forum on this site who fit this profile. I'll need a shrink to help me explain it or explore the ideas within myself - but others may have some insight to share. So does this strike a harmonic chord with anybody else who is a would-be flasher / exhibitionist and who is also in a racial minority in the country of residence where you live and work? Things have gotten more daring on my part this month. A couple of times  recently I've gotten more bold.. like this morning. From the road, he would see  me something like this (photo attached). I realize it's very tame by comparison  (to other's extreme flashing - but HEY!.. we are NOT all made or built the same,  right?) I'm standing in a pathway between grave plots about 7 meters from the main road that runs through the cemetery. It's a straight wide (private) road with no thru vehicle traffic - so I only have to be careful about pedestrians and bicyclists going east/west.  Before taking up my position just off the road, I scout out downthe road to see if he's approaching and then take up my position (like the photo).  I'm turned a bit to the left but I can him clearly when I look to my right. I've done this before but never pulled my pants all the way down until recently.  Earlier, I was taking a piss (or pretending too). So twice recently.. when I knew nobody else was approaching either direction .. I've pulled down my pants and starting jerking my cock (not hard in this 'staged' recreation of the scene). There should be no doubt that he can see me in this peripheral vision but he's TOO damned chicken or just not going to give me the pleasure knowing he's looking. He's smart - not a smart-alec and he's not looking for a confrontation but he's not looking to see 'dick' if he can help it either. I know it's pretty stupid (fruitless is a better word LOL) -maybe useless to try to keep flashing this guy (if you can call it that). But the challenge just seems to be increasing my feelings of urgency. This time after he went by without so much as a smile or frown/scowl or side glance... I had to go deeper off the main road and beat off til I came. Is this going to lead to me trying to go to greater lengths to get the guy to look? I think the attraction is that I sort of 'feel' like I know him -- ridiculous idea (I know) but at least we recognize each other. Sometimes he almost can't help it if I suddenly meet him coming around a corner but it's risky to be 'showing' more than just wearing see-thru mesh - because mothers with school children, old ladies and men heading to their office job are equally likely to suddenly appear around the same corners. I know he does look my way at times .. but it's only when I'm 20-50 meters away. There is a large plaza (paved area) along the main road, where we sometimes cross paths at a much great distance. It is at times like that when I have my zipper down and my cock partly exposed. I notice then that he 'seems' to take a brief look .. but if I'm too close.. he averts his eyes or even turns his head. What do you think? It's not much of a flashing experience - but it's the most 'real' flashing I've ever done (not counting nude beaches and CMNM with male strangers in hostels/campsites). He's got to know that I'm 'beating off' for him, but he's closed to the idea. Any suggestions?

See what I mean ... in a posting (original from May 10) cygnus wants to find a place to flash in Holland. Of course, there are many more people of Asian origin in most European cities than you would find Non-Asians (caucasians) in major cities of the country where I live. Look how he described himself "I am skinny asian boy" (a very cute one from the looks of his attached photo ), but does being a racial minority have an effect on us wanting to be a flasher (or to expose ourselves). I would say deep down psychologically it does. We' re not talking about simply traveling to a country that has a very different ethnicity as your own. But actually living, working and becoming immersed in the language, culture and daily life for a long period of time - (few to many years) might prompt extreme minority members to crave acceptance beyond the 'normal' channels. I noticed some str8 flasher on the other discussion forum on this site who fit this profile. I'll need a shrink to help me explain it or explore the ideas within myself - but others may have some insight to share. So does this strike a harmonic chord with anybody else who is a would-be flasher / exhibitionist and who is also in a racial minority in the country of residence where you live and work?

Where can you post naked photos of yourself?

[One of my new gay (online) friends asked me where he can post nude photos of himself so that only I and his other gay friends can view them. Here is my lengthy reply. ]

One thing you may not know is that: IT ONLY MATTERS WHERE YOUR 

NUDE PICS ARE HOSTED. Japan does not block outside sites (at least most ISP companies in Japan do not). Your blog is hosted on Blogger so the photos were not kept in Japan but were stored on Google's own web servers in the U.S.

It is not a crime to post naked photos of yourself that do violate international legal standards when the photos are not physically stored on Japanese host web servers.

BLOG Privacy versus SITE Privacy

Your 'Out There' blog was not private at all; however, it was also not really possible to find it without seeing the URL in some profile of yours.
Blogger does not password protect blogs but you can make them for 'members only'.

However, you can make it completely private and only allow specific people to view it by sending them an invitation by email.

There may be other blog sites such as LiveJournal, Wordpress and Typepad (or others) where you can set up a password protection for members only.

There are plenty of gay sites where a viewer would first have to become a

member (usually free) before he can actually see your profile or any pics on it. I have shown some examples of such sites below: such as Dudesnude or Manjam or GayWatch or Gay.com EMAIL: One thing that I do is to have completely SEPARATE email accounts for my married, straight father / professor self, and another completely set of email accounts for my 'gay' self.

I think you're mixing up the two of them - which is perfectly for today's young people. We, who are older and part of an established institution, would not be so happy to have our 'gay' identities shown to everyone.

So I suggest you to make a 'gay/bisexual-only' email account and to use it solely when sending email and logging on to gay sites.

Also, there is a benefit of using email which is already part of a securely encrypted mail server: NOTE* the URL for a site: https://
Google email uses such a system. The 'extra' s after  the http indicates that a site is securely encrypted.

My Blogger blogs (Google):

I can also make you a contributor (member) of one of my blogs so that you can upload photos or write message/texts.

It will probably be best if you used a different email address that the one you 

are using for your work, family, and 'straight' friends.

Tell me what email address is. It's probably not good to use the one we are communicating with now but it displays your full name. 


0) Of course, you can post naked photos of yourself on JustUsBoys.com, but (as far as I can see) 'free' members cannot limit who can actually view them. Click the link to see my profile on JUB:  
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/members/49298-sunbuns99

 








 


In fact, most members (free or paid) may not know that they can have a blog, a profile, and a gallery of up to about 200 photos (at least - it may be larger now),  belong to or create groups. Click the JUB link above to see my profile, blog and gallery. 

1) There are quite a few places where you can upload nude photos.

Probably the best place is Flickr http://www.flickr.com
It is easy to use and you can set the privacy for your photos - at four different levels for EACH photo: public (anyone can see), friends only, family one, friends and family, and completely private.

You have to create a Yahoo account. Formerly, you could only upload  200

photos,  but I believe that restriction has now been lifted. You designate in Flickr WHO can view each (or a batch) of photos.  So you can naked photos of yourself and allow only friends or family (meaning a close set of acquaintances).   That's a lot of naked pics. 

I can send you an invitation to see some of my naked photos on Flickr: It will come from one of my several Yahoo accounts: hardtwoholed

Here is my Flickr account: 
http://www.flickr.com/people/hardtwoholed/
YOU CANNOT see much of anything until you sign up for Flickr (and Yahoo), and also change your SETTINGS so that you can look at sexual content.

Here is another Flickr account: 
http://www.flickr.com/people/44864907@N06/

(There are no naked ones of me in there that are currently visible UNLESS

you are my friend in Flickr. ) So the account is considered 'safe' by Flickr (owned by Yahoo). If your post a nude photo of yourself publicly, then Flickr will warn you and also will make your account labeled as 'unsafe.' Unsafe accounts cannot be viewed by just anyone - so that also helps protect your identity.

Actually, I have at least 5 Flickr accounts since you used to be able to only save 200 photos (at least it was that was for a long, long time). Nowadays, there is unlimited photo storage for free on any Flickr account, so you no longer need to have multiple Flickr account. Nevertheless, I am still keeping my several Flickr accounts as backup for my nude, and try to let each persona 'specialize' in certain type of porn and nude male pictures.  


2) Goggle also has a similar site: Picasa (Google

Photos) for saving and sharing photos.
The photos you uploaded into your 'Out here' blog were uploaded also into a folder in the same Blogger account - but since you may have deleted it completely they might not be there anymore.

You can make each folder public or private. You can send invitations to people (like me) who will be able to view you private pics (but no one else can).

3). One site I enjoy is Tribe.net 

It's not for just gay people - but there are all kinds of people from countries all over - but there are also a lot of men who are gay. In Tribe, you can create your own profile and add photos, a blog, and other stuff (pretty simple); you can

also join (or create) your own tribe group - where members can share photos and have discussions privately. Only people you admit as 'friends' will be able to see your private photos (or the photos in a private group). There are many tribes that are related to sexual interests but NOT only those kind.   Here is one tribe that started on publicly openTribe.net:

http://tribes.tribe.net/homoerantics/

I can also send you an invitation to join Tribe.net (after I know what email address of yours I should use to invite you.) Several

Tribe are private and only join them and see their content by invitation from a current member. 

You can see my Tribe.net profile here (but you can cannot see my own 'private' naked photos - until I make you my 'friend' on Tribe.

http://people.tribe.net/sunbuns 

4) Inside some sites, you can upload some private photos and then only your 'friends' can view them.

There are both gay and non-sexual sites .. such as

A. Flipboard.com - You can created a multipage personal magazine by piecing together various sites such as, Flickr, Blogger, Tumblr and Twitter. 

B.   I mention them later, but there are some blog sites where you can post nude photos of yourself:
          Over-blog.com
          Nibblebit.com
           Livejournal.com 

          and Google Blogger (as discussed earlier).

C. Facebook changed it's privacy policy about nude photos, etc, a few years ago.   Now, it's possible to upload photos that can only be seen by the specific people you allow. However, at this point, I do not trust Facebook to keep its word about this policy.

So far, I have not uploaded any naked photos of myself in Facebook.

But I really enjoy using it to stay in touch.

http://www.facebook.com/sunbuns

(of course, I also have another Facebook account for my 'real self' - the married college professor father)

Here is a Facebook page for Guys Into CMNM (clothed male naked male):
https://www.facebook.com/guysn2cmnm

    You can only see if you are currently logged in to Facebook.  
If you post in Tumblr (or another site), then you can cross-post nude photos
in Facebook Page (such as Guys Into CMNM) without being reprimanded or banned on Facebook. However, the photos must be pictures of guys with soft (not erect) cocks. 

D. There are  a few other gay sites and also quite a few iPhone applications where you can create a profile and have public and private pictures. 

http://www.dudesnude.com

http://www.dudesnude.com/members/9156/

You can see all my PUBLIC photos but not the ones I have made 'private.' There is a password that is needed in order to view

those. There is a limit (about 25 I think) to the total number of photos you can upload on your DN (dudesnude) profile.You can choose whether or not to allow this profile to be published or not, and which photos will be private or public. There are ten of thousands of members of Dudesnude.com from all over the world. So it's popular with the gay population.


E. Various sites where you can post your own nudes or other gay men naked.

Celly is a website and also an iPhone app where you can create a simple profile and then have a discussion with a group of guys who can share links and post naked photos.   https://cel.ly/c/guysn2cmnm

Manjam, and NakedMates are other similar sites: 

http://www.manjam.com/sunbuns
http://nm-live.azurewebsites.net

(You can't see all the photos until you log in).

F. Here are few more sites where you can post nudes of yourself:

• Livejournal Blog   http://sunbunz.livejournal.com/
• My Nibble Porn Blog http://sunbunz.nibblebit.com/
• Over-Blog Guys Into CMNM http://guysn2cmnm.over-blog.com/
• Over-Blog seefallus.over-blog   http://seefallus.over-blog.com
• Cruising for Sex Profilehttp://web.cruisingforsex.com/bb/members/sunbuns.html
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Palm Springs: A great gay weekend trip or a week's vacation

Original posting: surfohio [msg] 31 Oct 2011, 09:23 I'll be in Palm Springs this weekend my friends and I won a house for the weekend - super nice any recommendations fun bars? fun restaurants? cool coffee houses? any cool dives? swank cocktail lounges? & the like or any good places to hike - especially with some water or place to swim thanks all

Many of the gay hotels and resorts have some type of day pass - -although the place you're staying may actually be much nicer. It's just that some of them are clothing optional, or have 'special sex zones' (sauna, backroom, and hidden garden or sunning areas where guys cruise for sex and engage in it). CCBC (Cathedral City Boys Club) has a nice pool and jacuzzi area, and also it's own brand of sex zone, and the infamous walk. There is a day pass rate for pool only guests.
But it depends on who is there and day and time. If there's some gay event going on in PS on the weekend, then it's likely to be busy and have lots of naked men in and out of the pool.

Outside the city, there are some nice hiking areas, but I've only been led there and can't recall how to get there myself.
Use the Net to find more general info on the 29 Palms area or the Joshua Tree National Monument (I think it's about 1 hour's drive or less from PS.) Of course, there's the famous gondola up the mountain just northwest of the city.

Follow up: nakedinma 31 Oct 2011, 09:29 if you like steaks, try "the falls". excellent food. we brought our own wine, (we had just been to napa) and the corkage fee was quite reasonable.

Follow up: sunbuns99* [msg] 31 Oct 2011, 21:37

If you have more time, I recommend driving over to see the Salton Sea (I'm not sure you can swim in it since it always seems to have dead fish and smells like brine.) But there is a State park on the eastern side for the Sea. If you head back eastward from the Salton Sea (State Hwy 22) you can also visit the Anza-Borrego State Park, the largest state park in CA (and one of the largest in the US (other than national parks). It has some great hiking spot not far from Borrego Springs), and should still be plenty warm to do them naked - if you feel brave enough. (I have done so -- for at least a few miles).

Heading further east toward San Diego is Julian, a little country-style alpine town, complete with antique shops, restaurants and sort of a cowboy (hickville) atmosphere. There is Cuyamaca State Park further inland, heading towards San Deigo.

(The last few recommended spots may be completely out of your travel plan - distance wise). So do your homework ... a bit more.

Enjoy .. Wish I was there ( again)...

Kelly

Follow up: sunbuns99 31 Oct 2011, 21:37 Many of the gay hotels and resorts have some type of day pass - -although the place you're staying may actually be much nicer. It's just that some of them are clothing optional, or have 'special sex zones' (sauna, backroom, and hidden garden or sunning areas where guys cruise for sex and engage in it). CCBC (Cathedral City Boys Club) has a nice pool and jacuzzi area, and also it's own brand of sex zone, and the infamous walk. There is a day pass rate for pool only guests. But it depends on who is there and day and time. If there's some gay event going on in PS on the weekend, then it's likely to be busy and have lots of naked men in and out of the pool. Outside the city, there are some nice hiking areas, but I've only been led there and can't recall how to get there myself. Use the Net to find more general info on the 29 Palms area or the Joshua Tree National Monument (I think it's about 1 hour's drive or less from PS.) Of course, there's the famous gondola up the mountain just northwest of the city. If you have more time, I recommend driving over to see the Salton Sea (I'm not sure you can swim in it since it always seems to have dead fish and smells like brine.) But there is a State park on the eastern side for the Sea. If you head back eastward from the Salton Sea (State Hwy 22) you can also visit the Anza-Borrego State Park, the largest state park in CA (and one of the largest in the US (other than national parks). It has some great hiking spot not far from Borrego Springs), and should still be plenty warm to do them naked - if you feel brave enough. (I have done so -- for at least a few miles). Heading further east toward San Diego is Julian, a little country-style alpine town, complete with antique shops, restaurants and sort of a cowboy (hickville) atmosphere. There is Cuyamaca State Park further inland, heading towards San Diego. (The last few recommended spots may be completely out of your travel plan - distance wise). So do your homework ... a bit more. Enjoy .. Wish I was there ( again)... Kelly
	Follow up: budcee 31 Oct 2011, 22:33 OK Guys. Remember this weekend is Pride Weekend and the town will be packed. Make sure you make reservation ASAP. There will be lines of people waiting to get in the the gay bars. We have always enjoyed dinner at Davey's Hideaway Restaurant‎ 292 East Palm Canyon Drive Palm Springs, CA 92264-8824 (760) 320-4480 If you have never been here that the Tram to the top of the mountain, there is hiking up there and a beautiful view of PS. Just dress warm, it is 30 deg cooler up there. There are 40+ gay resorts around most have day passes and are clothing optional (LOL). Have fun
	Follow up: steelearc 01 Nov 2011, 01:04 The hot/new place in town is LuLu, at South Palm Canyon and Arenas (one block over from PS's little "gay strip"). Good food, cute waiters, fun ambiance. Koffi is always busy, both "old" Koffi (N. Palm Canyon, just north of Alejo; hang out in back by the lawn) or "new" Koffi, on E. Palm Canyon, across from the old Biltmore. Toucan's is consistently voted one of PS's best dive/tiki bars, although Sunday night is the big event (drag show...it draws hundreds, and a very mixed crowd. Get there at 7:30 for the 8:00 show, or be prepared to wait in a VERY long line). A lot of people also like Trio either for the bar or restaurant, though I think it's overpriced for what you get. The leather scene, such as it is, is focused at the Barracks in Cathedral City, or to a lesser degree, the Toolshed on Sunny Dunes. Not to be missed: Sunday afternoon at Barracks! Basically any time after about 4. Check on Adam4Adam (dot com) if you want to know about sex parties. And ask me which ones are more recommended!