Gift unwrapped - the nature of authentic CMNM scenes

This blog is devoted to experiences, stories, advice, discussions (at least to save them from being deleted or disappearing), information, links to other Net resources, and (maybe) visual media for guys who are into (n2) CMNM - clothed male-naked male scenes. Not everyone who is interested in or turned on by the CMNM scene is gay, bi, or curious. CMNM is not simply a homosexual form of behavior. Actually, there are plenty of straight guys, who consciously or even subconsciously get some satisfaction from being naked or clothed with other naked men. Maybe they are just horny or starved for affection. 

There are also women who are turned on or intrigued by reality of a man being naked in front of clothed men and/or clothed women (or the reverse). Whether this nakedness is natural, socially acceptable, expected, forced on them, or totally exhibitionist, it generally involves either sexual arousal for the naked guy or the clothed guy(s) 

watching or for both. Such is the magic of this complicated scene - CMNM.

It's really a sexual preference lifestyle issue, but some would call it a sexual fetish or perversion. However, in many ways, male nudity permeates almost all aspects of male-to-male relationships and influences the nature of masculinity and what it means to be a man. Men use nudity and exposure of body parts or genitals to communicate affection, friendship, camaraderie, power /control, and even distain or disgust. Being aware CMNM scenes and being turned on by them is subconscious for most males. We're just a select few who have recognized it as a separate way of psycho-sexual interaction and, for some personal or social stimulation. Once you think more deeply about it, you'll be able recognize and see its effects in buddy-to-buddy friendships, sports and athletic camaraderie, male-bonding and growing up, rites of passages for young males, social events, public and private clubs and social organizations, schooling, and especially in the past - even the constant girl-chasing pack mentality of romance, male lust (and sex) and the antics and rituals associated with those. 

More recent acceptance of gays in society has meant that 'guy-chasing' and the behaviors around that once secretive activity are becoming more known. So CMNM (like CFNM - "clothed female-naked male") is becoming a recognized category of human sexual activity.

---------- The above amateur photos were forwarded in a group email message ---------- From: atitlan on his [ymna2] Yahoo group.

   

 

Japanese Society in Cameo: Guys emerging from a hot spring bath

[ This entry was also posted one of my other blogs: Kelly's Second Life and on my Tribe and JustUsBoys blogs.]


Some of these photos of Japanese men emerge from a hot springs (mineral baths) or 'onsen' were highlighted on QueerClick not long ago. I can't resist showing them again. It's just THE Japanese thing to do - and seems to be especially popular with groups of male college friends, intramural sports teams, or company excursions. They usually spend a night or two at the hot spring resort - one of the most famous - as well as accessible to Tokyo - is Hakone (near the Mt. Fuji Lakes area). Invariably, they have a nice meal - (that's a whole other story) and gulped down lots of beer, sake, and even whiskey or strong imported Chinese liquor.

They're all wearing the traditional 'yukata' - thin, cotton kimono-like coat - with (hopefully) nothing on underneath. When the alcohol, good food and camaraderie take effect, they start dancing sometimes in the buff or provocatively draped, they sing (karaoke) or do stunts (handstands, etc), and then everybody heads down to the communal baths in the resorts - usually downstairs and many
times facing outdoors - a river, wooded stream or even the ocean. Those who can no longer stand - due to the alcohol- might be helped by to their rooms, and fondled or groped or even much more (I only know what I would be doing if my buddy had passed out half naked). Back in the baths, the antics usually escalate - naked men are scrubbing each other's back, and there's the relentless teasing about the size of somebody's dick (often teased that he's too big), and sooner of later somebody passes out from heat exhaustion and too much liquor. A few erections may emerge from under the suds or hidden while squatting in the thigh-deeper hot pools of volcanic mineral waters.

 

All in all.. it's a great time for everyone.

Japanese men are horny a whole lot of the time and - in my opinion - the repressive nature of their society actually only deepens and heightens the sexual tensions for the average company worker. The stress of so many social and work responsibilities is sometimes almost too much to bear: 'fetch this' and 'do this now' is the only thing workers hear all day and half the night since they almost always work overtime for NO (or little) pay.

Without much recourse or with little leeway for arguing back, they submissively accept what they have to do, and go about it quietly (or at least only mutter out of earshot) or complain to their 'real'

friends later. All this comes bubbling to the surface when the drinks and relaxation reach the max at big group parties out in the country. The months of repressed desire also come bubbling to their consciousness - well.. at least it would in mind. Japanese men are generally dissuaded from 'flirting' in public - especially in an office situation. In fact, it use to be true that inter-office affairs and romantic relationships were so frowned upon that a worker risked getting transferred or - in the worse case - fired for dating a co-worker. It really is much less true nowadays because of the changes occurring in the society and in the economy. However, to some extent interoffice romance is discouraged. In that kind of environment, young men (ages 22- 35) before marriage didn't have many avenues for sexual or romantic release -except Japanese anime and pornography, and the nightly jerk-off once they crawled in to bed after midnight when they got home from a couple of 'mandatory' rounds a the local pub with the office gang - that often included their immediate superior (who was bucking for promotion or for leverage to support his pet projects).

 

The trips to the onsen (hot spring resorts) and the pub crawls after working later are rather like R & R for the troops in an army that's on dangerous duty. This was (and still is in some cases) the Civilian Military - (Japan Incorportated) because that was exactly how the typical Japanese factory or company used to operate. The new ones were the recruits -- called upon to have to endure all kinds of hardships (workign 12-16 hour days for example was expected), so these 'trips' were probably a natural way to help relieve a lot of stress.. some of it under the belt line - so to speak.


There is no doubt in my mind that many a young company employee (male or perhaps more so the females) was 'defrocked' while on one of these onsen excursions organized by his (her) company or social group.
The situation has ameliorated to some extent. It is not easy to determine how much though. Japan still has the highest rates of suicide of any industrialized (first world) nation, and the numbers continue to swell. Over 30,000 per year end their lives and by estimates, nearly 4 times as many try to do so.

Japanese has a massive social networking infrastructure long, long before the days of the Internet - or Facebook. I could write a book on this and related topics... but - in reality - much of it is coming to an end. Today's young people do not want to participate to the same degree as before. The number of 'freeters' - young people who refuse to get a full-time job, who often still live at home on their parents' dime, and are content with having little money - but lots of freedom and tons of free time to work part-time at as many as 3 jobs, quit when they get tired of one, go out with friends to sing karaoke or drink or just hang out, and play PS3 games or windowshop all night long.

More to follow (eventually.....)

The above first 3 amateur photos were forwarded in a group message from: atitlan [ymna2] Yahoo group, the last one was sent in my Erik on his [cmnm] google group. Note: Queerclick displays their logo on the photo but they no more own the copyright (c) to that photo that Richard Nixon does!

 

Failure to conceal isn't 'accidental' flashing or is it?

When guys are doing sports or physical activities outdoors, they are many times that they need to change into and then back out of their sports uniforms and exercise clothes. This gives then plenty of opportunity to naked in front of others (especially other males). The experience might often lead to interested glances, long gazes, and even to physical intimacy between them. This may be particularly true at nude and clothing-optional beaches. 

In England and elsewhere in Europe, it is totally natural and happens so often, it's 'hard' to keep track of. In America, the story is very different. In most of the US (except the right and left coasts), public nudity of any sort - whether rather innocent or flagrant -- is treated as a misdemeanor - a violation of civic laws. 

Damn, that puritan ethic (smile). But then again, absence of permission or of simply overlooking the obvious, sometimes makes the 'act' all that more exciting - I suppose. In Japan, where I spend most of my time currently, this kind of things happens as well. However, the main difference is the guys do try to conceal their privates while changing. Buttocks are not considered 'private' parts of the anatomy - especially for males. 

Well, it's not OK to exposed your butt in public walking down the street, but a little harmless arse-flashing happens amazing regularly on beaches, sports fields, parks, and in other public areas when the necessity of changing in public calls for it. I wrote a lot about one such experience of watching a group of Japanese twinks who regularly meet to play frisbee soccer in a previous post here and elsewhere. 

http://guysn2cmnm.blogspot.jp/2008/08/sunbuns-has-sent-you-e-card-on-glowfoto.html

Atitlan (David; admin for YMNA, a Google Goup) wrote this short comment to accompany the above candid pics.

 Frisbee soccer lads getting dressed / undressed before / after playing.

This Looks like Brighton beach to me - lads down from London for 

the day. It is the sort of thing that happens at the British seaside. 

I remember as an impressionable 14 year-old glancing up from a book I was reading on the beach, to notice something that stayed in the memory. A lad a few feet away from me, a couple of years older, was trying to remove his swimsuit under his towel, only for the towel to drop and reveal a horizontal erection. His look was one of shock, mine must have been

of admiration.

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Two buddies' attraction leads to more with a cellphone pic

A long-time lurker on the site Dickflash.com Male-Male Flashing finally came up with a really great first post (based on a real-life relationship) which is a very erotic story about his finding out a straight buddy was really into him too.

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So I'll admit...I've been a habitual lurker on here (http://www.dickflash.com) for quite a while! Mostly because every time I come on this board with the intention to post, I end up reading something that makes me bust a nut on the spot!

This started back in 2008. I reconnected with this one guy that I have known since he was 14 and I was 21 (he was the brother of another friend). We had lost contact with each other, but in summer of 2008, we ran into each other. He was 23 at the time, and I was 30. We exchanged numbers, and eventually started hanging out together with our respective girlfriends. I'm bi, but from all I could tell, he was as straight as they came. He worked in construction, and even from a young age, had always been a beer drinking, sports watching, skirt chasing hetero guy.

Anyway, we really hit it off, and got to be very close. One night, while both of our girlfriends were out of town on a girls weekend, we were texting each other just stupid shit. Now you have to understand, in addition to the "straight guy sex appeal" he held, my friend is also very seriously hot. Dirty blonde hair, crystal blue eyes, and a hard body from construction work. Also, since we had joined a gym together, and saw each other naked almost every day, I knew he was really hung (at least 5 soft.












I had been wanting to figure out a way to flash him my hard cock for quite a while, and I thought text might be the perfect way. So I took a picture of my very hard cock, and sent it to him with this note: "Hey babe, I hope you and [his girlfriend's name] are having a great time. Just wanted to show you how much I missed you." I wanted him to think that I had accidentally sent that to him instead of my gf.
Well, a minute later, I get a text from him: "Hey man. Not that I don't appreciate getting to know you better, lol, but I think this was meant for [my girlfriend's name]. :-)". I called him, pretended to be hugely embarrassed. He laughed, said no big deal, and joked that he'd seen me naked enough times at the gym that it didn't really matter.

I thought that was that, until a few minutes later, I got a text from him. With a picture of his cock. Rock hard. The text said "LOL. I figured that I would return the favor. LOL...enjoy. Since the girls aren't here, guess I'm going to have to take care of this myself."

Fucking hell. I nearly creamed myself right there. He had the perfect cock. About 9-9.5 hard, beautiful head, cut but no circ scar, just delicious looking. So I texted him back "Nice! Guess that means we're real friends now, huh? LOL. Yeah, about to take care of matters myself."

Well, he texted me to have fun, I told him to do the same, and figured the night was pretty much over. So I thought I would jump in the shower, then head to bed for a nice long stroke with his pic. Well, as I'm getting out of the shower, I get another text from him with a picture of his now semi-hard cock AND A MASSIVE HANDFUL OF CUM, saying "Ahh...apparently I needed that. Hope your's was just as good! Goodnight!"

Well, I couldn't even wait to get to bed. I was so hard, the skin on my dick was straining. I swear to you, 2-3 strokes and I blasted all over the bathroom sink. So I took a picutre of that and simply said "It was. :-)". He wrote back "Nice!", and we both called it a night.

That was on a Saturday. The next Monday, when we met at the gym, I noticed that he didn't turn away when he stripped after working out, and instead of wrapping his towel around his waist like normal, he put it around his shoulders. So of course, being the exhibitionist I am, I did the same. We walked into the shower room, and took two shower stalls right next to each other, like normal. Now, the shower floors were dark tiles, and when they are wet, they are very reflective, a fact that I had taken advantage of on numerous occasions to perv on him a bit.

That day, he seemed to be taking a lot longer in the shower, so I leaned over to check what he was doing. And I could clearly see him jacking off...and from his reflection, could tell he was perving on me too! So I decided to join in!

I was so horny, knowing that he was jacking off and watching me, that it didn't take long for me to cum. Now the two showers that we liked had the drain in the floor right between them, so it was VERY obvious that my cum was floating to the drain, and in fact, got stuck on the grid on top. About 20-30 seconds later, I see his load join mine on top of the drain. We finished our showers, got out, and just pretended nothing happened (other than our still softening semi's!).

This went on for a couple of months, and throughout that time, I would get text pics from him of his hard or soft cock, with some joking text attached to make it seem like it was all fun. So of course, I played along. Well, right before Christmas of that year, the girls were out shopping, and were going to go back to his girlfriend's place to wrap presents and were going to stay the night there. So he and I decided to have a guys night and he was going to stay over at my place. We watched some "guy" flicks (scary, bloody, with lots of T&A), and had some food and beers.

Earlier in the day, in a moment of hopeful dreaming, I had bought a bi porno featuring mostly MMF action. It was hardcore, with the guys getting it up the ass just as much as the women. I left it on my video shelf, just in case. Well, we were a little tipsy, and he asked if I wanted to watch another movie. I said sure, so he got up to see what DVDs I had. I don't hear anything for a bit, when he suddenly says "This looks interesting!", and holds up the porno I had bought earlier. I pretended to be embarrassed, and had forgotten to put it away. So he said "What the hell?", and put it in the DVD player.

Well, at this point, we were both already pretty much ready for bed, so just in boxer shorts and nothing else (this was pretty standard from the few times he had stayed over before, even before the sexual tension). So there we are, sitting on the same couch, watching porn. This wasn't one with a stupid story line - it was all action. The very first scene quickly led into a guy getting fucked up the ass while eating out a woman.

I glance over at him from the corner of my eye, and can see that he is very obviously hard, and playing with his cock through his boxers. So I do the same. After a minute or two, I say something like "Sorry, just can't take it", pull my boxers off, and start stroking. Well, he stares at me a minute, then does the same. The next scene comes on, and it's just two guys, with the girl watching and fingering herself on the side. The guys are blowing each other, and my friend suddenly asks me "I've always wondered what it was like to get head from a guy. I've heard it's better than from a woman. Have you ever been blown by a dude before?"

I hesitate for a minute, then say, yeah, I have. A mouth is a mouth. A couple of more seconds pass, then he asks me "Have you ever blown a guy?" Again, I hesitate, and answer that yes, I've returned the favor a few times. Well, we watch for a another couple of minutes, when I finally can't take it any more. I say "This may be just the alcohol talking, but if you want to find out what it's like, I'll be happy to show you."

He doesn't say anything, but just removes his hand from his cock, slides down the couch a little, and spreads his legs. Well, instantly, I was down on my knees between his legs, with that beautiful, glorious cock in my mouth. I am on it like a starving man on bread. A minute or two into it, I can feel his cock start to jump, and I know he's about to cum soon. Suddenly, I feel his hands on my arms, pushing me away. I think "Oh shit! I've gone too far and now he's pissed." So I stand up, when he leans over...and takes my cock in his mouth.

It's surreal...I can see the sandy blonde hair of this "super straight" stud bobbing up and down as he takes his first inexperienced taste of cock. I can tell this is his first time. There's a little too much teeth, and not quite the right amount of suction (kwim?). But I don't care...this is so hot that I am about to blow. I tell him "I'm about to cum!", thinking he will pull off, when he just starts sucking faster and I feel his hand on my balls. I can't hold back, so I start to shoot in his mouth. I hear him gag at first, but he doesn't stop. And I swear to you, swallows the whole load.

Well, when I recover, I look down so that I can finish him off, when I see that he has actually cum without even touching himself. At that point, I get a bit worried. What if he freaks out? What if this makes things weird?

I go to turn off the movie, when I hear him say "Nah, don't turn it off yet. It's just getting to the good stuff!" Hell yeah! So we sit down, naked on the couch, and continue to watch. Well, needless to say, it wasn't too long before we were both hard again. A scene comes on with two guys fucking, and he looks at me and says "I've always wanted to try that." I ask him "Anal sex?" He say's yeah.

Well, up until this point in my life, I had never been fucked. I had, however, used quite a few toys up there. So I ran to my room, and grabbed some lube. I come back, look him in the eye, squirt some lube on his cock and on my ass, then lower myself onto his cock as he is sitting on the couch.

You would have thought I had electrocuted him. He started fucking me like a wild man, grabbing my hips and ramming into me. Granted, it did hurt like hell, because none of my toys were as big as him. But I didn't care, I wanted him so bad. He eventually had me on the floor, on the couch, in different positions without stopping. Finally, I hear him start to grunt, and can feel his load shooting into my ass. I collapse on the floor as he falls onto the couch, both of us breathing hard. I am worn out, but still hard, thinking I was going to go wipe his load out of my ass and wack off into the toilet. I sit up, and he looks at me...and then lifts his legs in the air so that his hole is pointed right at me.

I don't need to be asked again. I literally reach behind me, wipe the cum and lube mixture from my ass, slather it on my cock and his hole, and then slide into him. I could tell from the pain on his face that this had definitely been an "exit only" location before. However, he pulled me into him and started riding me. As I'm fucking him, his cock get's hard AGAIN (oh, god, to be 23), so I reach in front of me and start jacking him as I'm fucking him.

This is so unbelievably hot that I can't hold out long. So I start thrusting hard, and jacking his cock for all it's worth. Just as I start to shoot a load in his ass, his cock begins to unload another unbelievable large amount on his stomach.

Well, that was two years ago. And now, anytime we can get together alone, we pretty much go at it. However, now this "straight" guy is kissing me, blowing me, and takes it up the ass just as much as I do. We still have girlfriends, and still love fucking them. But nothing is hotter than the fuck buddy I found through a text message dick flash.